The Mirror - Emotional Boundaries
Brene Brown beautifully illustrates, "Daring to set boundaries is about the courage to LOVE ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." Boundaries are an essential aspect of protecting our PEACE. In protecting your PEACE, we can secure a safe environment for ourselves. Maintaining this mindset assists us in showing up for other humans in our lives in an authentic way. Putting in effort to keep your peace and balance enables us to be present in the moment and operate from the lens of purity and in our best interests. Understanding and employing this concept is essential to truly live a whole life.
Physical boundaries are rules that protect your body and space and ensure you are meeting your physical needs. As you can imagine, the obvious component of setting physical boundaries is the physical component, but one also must ensure that other physically related boundaries are secure and established. Setting boundaries around privacy is extremely important for one's success in protecting one's PEACE. Also, the way you physically interact with others is extremely important, specifically setting boundaries about the way people talk to you or when to say "No."
Emotional boundaries are essential in maintaining mental health and understanding your values, respecting your needs, putting yourself first, and communicating these boundaries to others. Emotional boundaries also focus on protecting one's peace. It is essential to understand that emotional boundaries really focus on the non-physical boundaries that one displays. Often, this comes in the form of self-preservation and non-verbal cues that focus on the way you interact with others on an emotional level. The boundaries of emotions are a powerful concept because they emphasize how one interacts with others, and, even more importantly, emotional boundaries directly influence our thoughts. We are responsible for our emotions and how we react to the world. It is equally important to respect other's emotional boundaries.
Boundaries are critical for development early in life. As I have grown up, I have assessed the need for good boundaries with others and myself. For example, we all have friends who constantly want to go out and be social, but not all of us are social butterflies. So, it is good to be able to set boundaries and say no, but I need do need to be social. I need to prioritize my own mental health and well-being. It is also good to have good boundaries with your significant other. Asking permission to discuss a heavy subject is an excellent way to initiate establishing boundaries. A great question to ask your significant other - Do you have the mental space to talk? It's very respectful. It's also respectful of yourself if you're passionate about a topic and want your partner to reciprocate that passion. Maybe they're mentally exhausted from their own day and can't connect with you how they would, or you would like; that's why boundaries are important. Establishing your own personal boundaries is also very important within yourself, knowing when to refuel and recharge, get a good night's sleep, drink more water, eat healthy meals, exercise, read a good book, and write a good book.
Some developmental theorists have concluded that our first pieces of vocabulary shape some of our strongest intentions around language. Most often, we learn to say no before we learn to say yes, so from the very beginning, at an early stage in life, we are learning to set boundaries and say no; however, at that particular moment in our development, we do not associate that with boundaries we associate it with understanding what we do not like and what we do not want to happen. Even though it is rooted in an elementary type, however, at that particular moment in our development, we start to establish boundaries. Even though it is rooted in an elementary mentality, it is still essential to understand. Still important to know that we can set boundaries, which is an important thing we often forget.
In conclusion, it is essential to establish boundaries, both emotional and physical. One should be in place for another. One must develop firm, healthy physical boundaries to successfully implement emotional boundaries. By focusing on creating physical solid boundaries, you learn the importance of protecting your PEACE and growing as a human. Think about your physical boundaries as paving the road for your emotional boundaries to flow effortlessly from your heart and support a well-balanced life.
